Wiring

• My mother-in-law, the mother of three boys, introduced me to the concept of “nurture vs. nature” early in our in-law relationship. When I met my Main Squeeze 18+ years ago I had grown up in what you could call a sorority house;  four girls under one roof. I didn’t really know what to expect in a family of mostly men.
• My mother-in-law has been a wonderful mother to three very different men — though she warned me about the whole “nature vs. nurture” phenomenon. In some cases nature (or wiring) takes over and we have to hold on to the ride. As a mother myself now…this couldn’t be more true. As a parent, can we impact wiring or is wiring a birth-rite? 
• I grew up in a “family of girls”. We marched to our own tune, had great ideas, acted on them immediately, ate dinner at a weird early hour, bought three pairs of every pant that fit us in the butt-and-thigh-area, made VW van road trips big-ass adventures full of truck stop Twinkies and girlie giggling. My sisters and I were all nurtured the same and our wiring is very different today. 
• I look in the mirror and see my wiring. I look at my husband and am so thankful for his wiring. I look at the kids and can see their wiring already. Our wiring is the core of our character. It is who we are.
• As a mother, I feel my job is that of an apprentice electrician. I can’t re-wire. I can’t do big jobs myself. I watch, I learn and become more confident every day.
• My ultimate dream in this wild world is to have grown children who are bright lights in the universe. The brightest they can be. The brightest they want to be. I want them to be brilliantly happy and content with how they are wired.

Speaking of wiring, this picture was taken while swimsuit shopping with an 8-year old boy!